Do Non-Religious Men Have No Reason to Get Married?
“You certainly will not die! God knows well that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened and you will be like gods, who know good and evil.” - Satan (Gen 3:5)
Zuby posted an interesting tweet:
“What is the best argument for a non religious man to get married?
The best argument I can think of is “tax breaks”, but that does not outweigh the problems the man1 can get into by getting married.
The Economics of Sex
Back in the old days, a woman would not share her body with a man or risk pregnancy unless he put a ring on her finger. There were obvious exceptions. A woman who allowed men to use her body for money was a whore, and a woman who allowed men to use her body for free was a slut. These were considered lower classes of women and most decent women didn’t want to be associated with them, let alone be them.
This all changed with the advent of the birth control pill. This allowed women to be free of the shackles of their biology and to behave sexually just like men. If you want to hear more about this, there is an excellent video out there that describes it.
Fast forward to today. We have contraception, and in case that doesn’t work, we have abortion. So men can freely use women’s bodies without consequences. I hear people (mostly women) ask: “Why is it all up to the woman? Why aren’t men more responsible?”
The answer is: Because they don’t have to be. It’s like that old joke… Q: Why does a dog lick his balls? A: Because he can! Men aren’t being held to a higher standard by women so in the absence of a firm moral compass, they can behave as basely as they wish.
The Advantage of Marriage for a Man
In the old days, the advantage of marriage for a man was that he then got access to the woman’s body. She would bear him children, work in the home, do the lion’s share of raising the children, and the man would provide for and protect his family. This would go on until one of them died.
This was the covenant.
If he abused her, or cheated on her, she could get a divorce. And then the court would order him to pay her alimony and child support. He would get all of the responsibilities of marriage with none of the benefits. This was a big incentive to keep it in his pants. If she cheated on him, she would get no alimony. She would get child support for the children, but she would have to figure out how to take care of herself financially. if there were no grounds, there was no divorce.
Enter No-Fault Divorce
One of the worst things to happen to our society was no-fault divorce. One petitioner could divorce another with no cause simply because she (and in 70% of the cases, it’s a she) was no longer “in love”. Then the man lost half his possessions, and was force to pay child support and maybe alimony.
When I was in Catholic elementary school, every one of my classmates had a mom and dad in the home, with the exception of one little girl whose daddy had died. When my daughters were in school, it was rare to find a classmate’s mom and dad still married and living together. I have no idea what my grandchildren will encounter.
Why Buy the Cow…
…when you’re getting the milk for free?
So if women will have sex with you, live with you, share a home with you, do all the things a wife will do without marriage, what is in it for men?
Nothing. It’s a chance to have the marriage fail and lose half your stuff, become impoverished and lonely. If his girlfriend breaks up with him, he can simply go his own way with maybe a child support payment.
High Value Women
When I was a teenager, my dad taught me: “Son, there are girls you play with and there are girls you marry. Don’t get them mixed up!”
I have been watching a number of dating videos (don’t ask!) and the concept of a high value woman has come up. This is high value with regards to being a marriage partner.
A high value woman is young (early in her fertile years) reasonably attractive, has a low “body count”, is frequently available for sex, and is supportive and respectful of her man. This is a woman a man can’t wait to get home to. This is a woman a man will die for.
How Do We Turn This Around?
The Ya-Ya Sisterhood needs to get together and decide that they are no longer going to cheapen themselves by having sex with men they’re not married to, raising the economic value of sex to the point that men want to give a lifelong commitment to have access to it.
It’s all up to you women.
Every time I use “the man” assume I mean “the non religious man”.
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